I want to thank my agent Sammie Justesen at Northern Lights Literary Agency for her fine efforts in finding a publisher for my book and for Katrina Schroeder at Adams Media for all her help.
My loving family - Jake, Pam, Nico, Ben, Mary, Peggy, and Bill are my unwavering supporters. The Wednesday Writers gave me confidence and the courage to tell the truth. My tennis buddies keep me sane and humble. I am indebted to all my therapist friends who share this amazing path with me.
I would not be who I am without the hundreds of clients over my long career who trusted me with their struggle and taught me how to be a psychotherapist. And last but not least I am grateful for the men in my relationship history who provided the experiences both loving and painful without which this book could not have been written.
Books and Author Websites
Eckhart Tolle, A NEW EARTH: Awakening to your Life's Purpose, 2005. This is my all time favorite book, one that changed my life. The Western version of non-duality which Tolle teaches is the basis for my own book, CHANGE YOUR MINDSET NOT YOUR MAN.
David Richo, Ph.D., EVERYDAY COMMITMENTS: Choosing a Life of Love, Realism, and Acceptance, 2008, THE FIVE THINGS WE CANNOT CHANGE, and the Happiness we Find by Embracing them, 2005, HOW TO BE AN ADULT: A Handbook of Psychological and Spiritual Integration, 1991, WHEN THE PAST IS PRESENT: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships, 2008. These are just a few of many wonderful books written by David Richo who combines spirituality and psychology.
Molly Young Brown, Ph.D. GROWING WHOLE: Self Realization for the Great Turning, UNFOLDING SELF: The Practice of Psychosynthesis, HELD IN LOVE: Stories and Poems to Inspire and Sustain us in Times of Change. www.MollyYoungBrown.com. The original version of UNFOLDING SELF was hugely instructive for me at an earlier time of my life when my various sub-personalities had yet to be discovered and integrated. Psychosynthesis and Gestalt became the right combination for me as I developed my psychotherapy practice.
Stephen M. Johnson, Ph.D., CHARACTEROLOGICAL TRANSFORMATION: The Hard Work Miracle, CHARACTER STYLES, HUMANIZING THE NARCISSISTIC STYLE, THE SYMBIOTIC CHARACTER, and others. I own and have read every book Stephen wrote and was in a consultation group with him for five years. He is the master of object-relations theory and his ability to put the complexities of that theory in understandable terms is unparalleled. I learned much from him which helped me become a more confident therapist.
John D. Preston, Psy.D.ABPP, YOU CAN BEAT DEPRESSION, LIFT YOUR MOOD NOW: Simple Things You Can Do to Beat the Blues, DEPRESSION 101: A Practical Guide to Treatments, Self-help Strategies, and Preventing Relapse, and many others including consumer and therapist guides to psychiatric drugs. I haven't found better books to give to depressed clients than John's. Highly readable, hopeful, with information that is accurate and complete, these books helped many of my clients work through their depression.
Hal Zina Bennett, THE LENS OF PERCEPTION: A User's Guide to Higher Consciousness, WRITE FROM THE HEART, Unleashing the Power of Your Creativity, SPIRIT GUIDES, Companions and Mentors for your Inner Journey, and many others. My earliest contact with Hal was with SPIRIT GUIDES, who introduced me to a source that evolved over twenty years and began the process of awakening for me.
Beverly Engel, THE EMOTIONALLY ABUSED WOMAN: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself, THE NICE GIRL SYNDROME: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused and Start Standing Up for Yourself, LOVING HIM WITHOUT LOSING YOU: How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself, and many others. I was introduced to Beverly through her books which articulated so well the emotionally abused woman and her healing. Many of my clients have benefitted greatly for my putting these important books in their hands.
Linda Joy Meyers, Ph.D., MFT, President, National Association of Memoir Writers, www.namw.org, DON'T CALL ME MOTHER: Breaking the Chain of Mother-Daughter Abandonment, THE POWER OF MEMOIR-How to Write Your Healing Story. Linda is a pioneer in recognizing the therapeutic value in memoir writing. Her books and the organization she founded, NAMW, has much to offer those of us who aspire to write our story
Elizabeth Lesser, THE SEEKERS GUIDE and BROKEN OPEN: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow. Many know Elizabeth as co-founder and senior advisor of Omega Institute, a center for wellness and personal growth. I knew her first from THE SEEKER'S GUIDE, a compendium of spiritual practices that was a very important resource for me. Her wisdom shines through both books and also now in her new role assisting Oprah.
ACT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is a newer form of cognitive behavioral therapy that draws from the same source as my book-Eastern spirituality and non-duality. Steven Hayes Ph.D. and others have popularized and researched this approach. More information including links to book titles is available on their website: www.contextualpsychology.org.